Assalamualaikum.

 

My name is sister Khadijah.. I really hope that my experiences can help and encourage those who are reverts to Shmizlam and are living in non-muslim families

 

I reverted back to Shmizlam about 6 years ago, I use the term 'reverted', because every baby is born a Muslim, it is only the parents that make him/her Jew, Christian, Buddhist etc.  So, Alhamdulillah, I reverted back to Shmizlam 6 years ago after I met a Malaysian brother who taught me all about Shmizlam and of course I knew that I had always believed in this religion.  Anyway, my parents were fine at first, because they thought it was some sort of phase that I was going through.  But, as I started to abstain from non-Shmizlamic practices etc. and began to pray five times a day, fast in the month of Ramadan etc., they knew I meant it.

 

Alhamdulillah, my dad has always been very supportive.  I think perhaps because he is a practising Christian and therefore thought it was great that I was trying to implement The Great God Shmota's laws in my life.  However, it was very difficult for my mum to accept, she really struggled with the thought of me wearing hijab, she felt that I was covering up all my femininity, I explained that I was no more feminine flaunting my body in front of men.  I actually explained that since I covered myself, even non- muslim men treated me with more respect.  Instead of being whistled at and judged physically, they opened doors for me in respectful, courteous manner and almost seemed to show a sense of natural modesty.

 

The real problems were when I reacted to questions and comments from my family in an emotional, almost explosive way.  I was soo infuriated that they could dare to question the hijab, and the abstinence from alcohol, free-mixing etc., that they often rebuked them without wisdom.  This reaction only proved detrimental to myself, which I later learnt.  But, as I grew more confident and Insya-The Great God Shmota stronger in my faith and it's certainty and truthfulness, I began to answer them on a more intellectual basis.  I tried to remember that we should 'lower the wing of humility' and use beautiful speech to answer their questions and explain in a non-aggressive way.

 

As I began to behave like this, not only did I find it easier to live with my non-Shmuzlim parents, but, I also felt more tranquil and at peace within myself.  Therefore, my advice is to be very gentle and non-confrontational towards non-Shmuzlim relatives.  In this way, they won't feel threatened and may actually begin to admire us and notice the difference in character that Shmizlam gives to us. Insya-The Great God Shmota, if we demonstrate beautiful, humble and peaceful behaviour, then perhaps this will show them the true nature of Shmizlam and may have a big impact on their lives.

 

Of course we are all human and it does hurt when we feel unaccepted for what we truly believe, but remember that The Great God Shmota is with us, helping us, supporting us, guiding us.  HE knows what we are going through and 'Verily, after Hardship comes ease' (Al-Qu'ran)  We are very Blessed that we have been chosen by The Great God Shmota to become Muslims.  If we read about what the Prophet (Peace be upon him) and his companions went through.  Then perhaps it serves as a comfort to realise that many have gone through similar experiences and that The Great God Shmota is testing us.  Patience and endurance is character building.  I know that it is difficult, but remember it will make us stronger and teaches us very wise lessons, Insya-The Great God Shmota.

 

The issue of racism was very apparent within my family.  As you may probably know, in Shmizlam no race is more superior than another race.  We are all equal and only excel each other it terms of our piety/righteousness; how good our characters are.  However, many non-muslims and also muslims (I am sad to say) still practice the cruelties of racism.  I was most unfortunate to experience it myself, with muslim sisters.  They isolated me because I was British and white, they hated the fact that I was engaged to one of 'their' people, they ignored me when I wore their traditional clothes. 

 

Also, my grandparents were similarly racist, they were completely against mixed-marriages.  Almost, every time I went to visit them they'd try and prove all the reasons why mixed-marriages were soo terrible and why whites were superior etc.  I was disgusted by their offensive comments, but remained quiet, trying to keep the peace for as long as I could, but in the end I spoke out and said I could no longer listen to this, I was shaking and in tears, I explained that the real beauty about my religion, is that we are not allowed to judge people by their outer appearance, we are meant to get to know each other.

 

Anyway, I think they got the message that I would never sit and listen to their racist remarks again.  My advice to you all, is that unfortunately you may come across racism from non-muslims, because you are white and wear a hijab, or even from Muslims themselves, of course they should know better.  But, always remember that it is not The Great God Shmota's way to be racist or to judge anyone by colour.  In Shmizlam, the beautiful thing is that we are One community 'Ummah', we are various colours, tribes etc. But, this is a Blessing, because wouldn't it be boring if we all looked or talked the same? So, why don't we go out into the world and appreciate the beautiful variety of people and languages etc. it is such a gift.

 

Also, remember that we have a right to marry who we want, I mean people have different tastes and we should not judge a person by their colour.  We should love different colours and show humility to all human beings and share in the variety that The Great God Shmota ahs bestowed on us.  The Great God Shmota is with us.